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生命力

今年六月初的时候去了一趟初冬的澳洲。那些日子里我常一个人在农场踱步,观察生命在自然界的起落,对身边的一切事物充满着awareness。被自然包裹的时候,mindfulness成为最自然的状态——灵魂很自然的舒展开来,和大地尽情亲吻着。那个时候我突然觉得,我只是生命之轮的一部分;自己似乎不再惧怕死亡,因为土地会继续存在;生命之轮会带着我星星点点的灵魂的尘埃,继续向前行进。

农场的旖旎风光。

农场的旖旎风光。

思遥和我开玩笑说,长期在农场生活的她,反而需要偶尔进城里吸吸尾气,感受下灯火与人潮——这算是她的urban retreat。而我这种urban folk,就应该多来农场住住,有助于calibrate自己被城市不断异化和挫伤的灵魂。从澳洲回来后我们继续保持着紧密的联系,她和我讲她在澳洲的各种关于土地的实验和对于人类社群的各种观察(以及扰动);我和她分享我的各种urban adventures。和她这样的亲密时而让我感动——仿佛我们在借由表面上完全不同的生活方式,彼此扩充了人生经验(quote另一位朋友)。这时候不禁联想到Andy Weir的微小说The Egg(一个对于佛家轮回的西方视角的阐释),似乎有异曲同工之妙。

农场的belted galloway牛牛。

农场的belted galloway牛牛。

还有一天,我和思遥一起在菜地里除杂草。那种和杂草努力battle的过程,让我感到了一种和自然较量的奇异感觉。不禁又想,做农活的时候,身体在不停的消耗卡路里,于是相对应的,每天也会多吃很多事物。身体就像一个不停「消耗-摄入-消耗-摄入」的马达一样,吭哧吭哧,充满活力。这种原始的生活状态让我想起鸟儿。鸟儿每天需要花大量的时间觅食,而觅食这个过程消耗大量的能量,既而形成了巨大的能量缺口,于是他们要更努力的觅食。这种密集的「摄入-消耗」循环是生命力的表现。

联结

去找思遥之前,我整个人的情感处于比较支离破碎的状态,在亲密关系方面有非常多的困惑和不安。思遥总是非常善于倾听,我们有说不完的话。但是她开车的时候比较紧张,除非上了高速,我们会尽量避免交谈。对我这个话痨来说,这算是一大挑战。如今仍使我记忆犹新的一段公路上发生的对话:“好了,前面要上高速,开大直路,你终于可以好好讲讲(你的心事)了。” 思遥说。我看了看导航,舒了口气,“好哇,我终于有了40公里的时间……”

和她对话是很舒心的。六月初冬夜晚,我们两个人放着喜欢的歌,围着壁炉聊起最私密的过往——直到深夜,火光逐渐细微,我的心里却一点点的,越来越亮堂。这些年,我愈发珍惜这样的女性友谊。我们从小被迫生活在各种各样的盒子里;而灵性成长的过程,就是一点点打破这些盒子;而打破这些盒子的勇气的核心,是self-compassion,是human connections,是camaraderie。珍惜那些能让你 just be yourself 的人,他们是你生命里最重要的人。

回坡之后,正式结束了一段三年多的感情,有很多感伤,但也获得了很多成长。Without loss there is no space to make changes. 终于我又回到了一个人,开始直面自己内心最深处的insecurities,and make plans to work on them;开始思考自己最想要探索的relationship的形式;感受到来自很多朋友们的爱,也在认真给予爱,而这些关系仿佛一张网一样把我轻柔包裹。谢谢你们。

思遥和我。

思遥和我。

两座大山

最近和不同的朋友聊天,都得到一个殊途同归的结论——人生有两座大山要爬:一座是物质的山(向外探索),一座是灵魂的山(向内探索)。过去读书这几年,我花了很多的时间爬灵魂的山,物质的山没有花太多时间探索。接下来,是时候努力换一座山爬一爬。但我也发现一个趋势,很多在大城市里生活的人,似乎都在争先恐后爬物质的山,而能静下心来面对真正的自我,摸索摸索灵魂的大山的人,还是少数。

即使接下来要专注爬物质的大山,我也会走走停停;就好像外出远足的时候,总要驻足看花鸟鱼虫一般。走得太快,路边的风景会变得模糊不清,那是多么可惜。

思遥带我去深山里的修道院小住时候,我拍下的laughing kookaburra

思遥带我去深山里的修道院小住时候,我拍下的laughing kookaburra

农村和都市

我回来坡之后跟人讲起这段经历,常提起一句笑话:我们城里人平日吃到什么好吃的菜,会琢磨着上哪儿买。思遥和她老公在饭桌上吃到什么喜欢的菜,会直接开始琢磨:“这个菜,咱家能种么?”……思遥和她邻居打起电话聊的都是些什么:“我们家鸡多下了几个蛋,你要么?今天进镇子里买了点牛肉,……对呀,就是那只三岁的belted……” 我们城里人哪里会知道,今天吃到的牛,是哪头牛宰杀得来的呢?城市食物的供应链,长的一眼望不到尽头(缺乏农业用地的新加坡尤其如此)。

每一天的farm2table都很快乐,小番茄第一次爆炸在嘴里的那一刻的味觉刺激无比难忘。思遥经常买来各种稀奇古怪的蔬菜做给我吃。

每一天的farm2table都很快乐,小番茄第一次爆炸在嘴里的那一刻的味觉刺激无比难忘。思遥经常买来各种稀奇古怪的蔬菜做给我吃。

澳洲的巨型二手店。「东西」就应该被这样尊重和重复利用呀!

澳洲的巨型二手店。「东西」就应该被这样尊重和重复利用呀!

小镇农场的生活是一个圈 (life wheel)。食物的边角料goes into compost,来于土地归于土地。今年收下的种子,是次年的食物的承诺。吃不了的菜杆儿剁碎了丢给鸡群。买蔬菜从来是去farm shop,几乎没有任何用过即扔的塑料包装。吃完果酱剩下的玻璃罐儿都认真洗干净拿来放腌菜。思遥来月经时候用的都是可重复使用的卫生巾,而不是用完即弃的一次性卫生巾。相比之下,我时常为自己在城市产出的生活垃圾感到惊诧。城市的生活,像一条直线……

〇和一的分别,便是我这次旅行所得的最重要的观察。

This is what I wrote as the Acknowledgement for my recently submitted Ph.D. thesis.

When I first started my Ph.D., I only have a vague idea of what research is about. What was driving me is that I was keen to learn more about the brains, in particular human brains. What constitutes our consciousness? Does free will exist? Why and how does humanity arise from this intricate piece of machine made of 86 billion neurons? What characterises individual brains that make each of us unique? Why do we sleep and dream? What happens to the brain when we suffer from mental illnesses?… I had many more questions like this, and four years after, I am not sure if I can answer any of them with full confidence. The exercise of scientific research makes one humble, and more so if the subject of study involves the human brain; the more I learn about the brain, the more mysterious I find the brain is.

Enough about the brain musings. Actual day-to-day research work was not exactly like what I initially pictured. Instead of daydreaming about the fundamental or philosophical questions about our brains, I had a hard time crunching the complex neuroimaging data; getting used to the data analytical tools; reading, writing, and solving problems with advanced mathematics; learning to frame and approach a meaningful and well-situated research question. I had little research experience before I joined our lab, and I would like to thank my Ph.D. advisor Thomas for always being there for me whenever I approached him for help. His cheerful spirit and genuine care for the student made our lab a big, happy family. His rigorous thinking and strong work ethic made our lab one of the most productive and reputable in the field. I feel very lucky to have been able to work with him during the past four years.

My coworkers are also indispensable for my Ph.D. career. Ruby has been everyone’s go-to person when we’ve got research or technical questions and she has always been the most patient mentor to us. Leon was admitted to graduate school in the same batch as me, we helped each other along during our ups and downs, and I am grateful for having him as one of my best buddies in the lab. Shaoshi and I shared many interesting lunch chats about art, books, films, TV shows, anime, and video games, and I am very happy to have such a friend in the lab with whom I can take my mind off the hardship of research from time to time. Yan Quan is the snack hoarder in our lab, you can always snatch a candy or a bar of Snickers from him, and he also introduced me to the wonderful world of rock climbing, it had since then become one of my greatest hobbies. Csaba is the one with a bucket of (sometimes) funny jokes and his enthusiasm for neuroscience has always impressed and inspired me. Lijun is one of the most hard-working people in our lab and we often have a secret competition about who comes first into the lab in the morning. Aihuiping has a very strong work ethic and under her supervision, we know that our GitHub repository is in very good hands. I would also like to thank Trevor, Zhang Chen, Tianchu, Naren, Xingyu, Sina, and Yapei, as well as our previous lab members Jianzhong, Yang Qing, Xiaolu, Heidi, Kim-Ngan, Valeria, Angela, Xuan Kai, Jingwei, and Nanbo for the good times we shared and the research advice they offered. Especially, I am grateful that I also shared the most beautiful friendships with our previous lab visitors, Siqi, Nevena, and Mengyun. I wish all of them well in their future endeavors.

Apart from my advisor and my lab mates, there are many other significant people in my life that I would like to acknowledge. Chenmu has been my dearest friend and held my hand through many hardships, whether in research or life. We shared the most wonderful trips, collaborated on many artworks, and raised two kitties together. His company has truly enriched my PhD career. Yifan and I shared many long lunches venting about our research woes, critiquing recent trends in fashion, and exchanging the most authentic views on our lives. I have always appreciated her genuine opinions and advice. Zijiao and Xiao Yu from “next door” shared a lovely apartment with two beautiful cats and I never left their place without a heart full of love and warmth, and my clothes and nostrils covered in cat furs. Siyao and Heyang are my good old friends who had always been there for me, our shared passion for cooking and life bonded us together, and they are close like family. Zoe and I do not meet very often, but whenever we do, I feel like we can talk on and on until the end of the world. Xinyao is one of the best storytellers that I know of, I just love discussing fictions with her. We also enjoyed playing indie video games together a lot. Yize and I exchange books very often and we are happy to have been each other’s inspirations throughout the years.

Last but not least, I would like to thank my parents for their enduring love, support, and faith in me, without whom I couldn’t have become me.

Apart from completing my Ph.D., I have accomplished many other things during the past four years. I developed a few new hobbies: rock climbing, surfing, birding, video editing, making pottery, playing the piano; I continued to enjoy my old hobbies: painting, baking, photography, scuba diving, reading all sorts of books, making connections with all sorts of interesting people; I learned to drive a car; I started to keep pets, and Ginger and Coco had been the most wonderful cats each in their own ways; I started to travel again since after the pandemic has eased, and had so much fun discovering new corners of the world, with the realisation that being always on the move really helps to open up my mind. I attended two academic conferences and had the most wonderful time exchanging research ideas and exploring new cities with my lab mates. I believe that I have become a better person out of this Ph.D., and I am grateful for what I have and what I shall have. Even if I decided to leave the field, my interest in the brain shall never cease, since any self-introspection would eventually lead us to the age-old question: Who am I? Am I the collective of my thoughts and memories? Am I the wiring pattern of my 86 billion neurons? Am I a brain in the tank? …

今天打开Reeder,翻到了几个网友的年度总结,受到启发,自己也想写一写。2022年又是发生了很多变化的一年,心怀感激写下这些文字。

科研

今年是博士生涯的最后一年。前两天和Thomas(博导)聊天,他跟我说,以我现在的进度,可能需要延毕三四个月(23年年底毕业)。我说行,没事,我不着急(虽然内心还是有一丝丝难过,仿佛延毕是一种失败)。Thomas顿了一下,又和我语重心长的说,你知道吗,你是我们实验室为数不多的,对神经科学真正抱有强烈好奇心的学生。其他大部分学生,早在开始读博前,就已经决定了毕业后去业界。但你不一样。你最开始加入的时候,我能感受到你的科研热情。但是不知道哪一天,你的这种热情好像不再了(他的原话:somewhere, you lost it.)

有那么几秒钟,空气凝固,时间静止。过往的三年半,从我眼前倏忽而过。Yes, somewhere, I lost it… But when? I cannot even remember, as if i were amnestic. 想到这里,不禁有些伤感,这可能就是所谓的“丢了初心”吧。三年多以来,我从最开始的兴奋与好奇(懵懂无知),渐渐进入质疑与批判的状态(为什么这个领域多漏洞百出的研究),以至于到最后对这个领域(fMRI)失去了信心与热情,并下定决心在毕业后直奔业界,离开这个领域。

我在我们实验室,不算最幸运的那个。第一个项目,做了几乎整整三年(我们实验室的平均时长是两年)。由于这个项目属于Thomas非常擅长的领域,而且是他筹谋已久,期待甚高的项目,所以并没有留给我很大的发挥空间。雪上加霜的是,我所接受的本科教育本就缺乏科研能力的训练,所以博士刚开始的时候,我是丈二和尚摸不着头脑,建模能力和创造力还非常薄弱,只能按照Thomas的建议一点点按部就班。没过多久,疫情来袭,居家的大部分时间只能单打独斗;Thomas在家边工作边带娃的压力很大,变得易怒,搞得我每次开会前都紧张到发汗腹痛。第二年年中的时候,项目一度似乎进入了死胡同——有段时间我整个人都很沮丧——天天就跟老驴拉磨一样,research的进度十分缓慢,失去了一个PhD该有的专注和热情。但还好,第三年,终于做出了差不多的成果,又能睡个踏实觉了。

总结一下,头三年的小失败,一方面确实是运气不太好,另一方面也是我自己能力不够——还没做好读博的准备,就一头扎了进来。回过头来,觉得挺神奇,虽然工作如此不顺,自己却能一直保持相对平稳的心态,竟也熬过来了。真心感谢身边人一路的支持和陪伴。

现下,还是挺享受最后一年自由自在做科研的时光。工作日的生活很简单:大清早去个健身房(让运动开启一整天多巴胺的释放)。上午到了实验室,读读自己感兴趣的文献。吃完午饭写写码,开开会。下午和同事吃茶唠嗑。晚上回了家,撸撸猫,有精力了就搞点创作,想懒着就躺在沙发里,进行一些书影音的消化。每天几乎都是按照自己的节奏舒舒服服地生活,这种掌控感着实很难得。

毕业后的打算,应该就是做数据方向,具体做啥还不知道。业界的整套操作对我来说都还是未知的。虽然这些年来常约业界的朋友吃茶聊天,可终究是道听途说。整个数据智能行业这几年呈现一种爆发式增长,与此同时也带来许多焦虑与浮躁。Generative AI去年疯狂出圈,无论是图像还是语言类的生成式模型,都振奋人心。模型和算法都在光速进化,我还挺期待在未来看到(且参与)更多真正落地开花的项目。

可能我确实部分弄丢了自己对neuroscience的初心,但是我拥有了一些更重要的东西——和Thomas亦师亦友的相互信任,和同窗们的comradeship,还有一点点打磨出的科研能力与思维。These will stay with me.

旅行

今年去了挺多地方,见了一些老朋友,也借由旅行发展了一些新的爱好。六月底去英国开会,回了坡之后还是非常兴奋,想出去玩——觉得世界好大,新加坡好小。十一月去澳洲进行了一场长达两周的自驾,天光云影深山密林风花雪月,一切如梦似梦。自己对大自然的迷恋,在经历了三年的休眠后,又绽放了。在澳洲还培养出了一样在退休人士中特别受欢迎的爱好:观鸟(起因是在墨尔本的博物馆买到了一本编排特别精巧的鸟类图鉴)。回坡之后,我买了高倍望远镜,东南亚鸟类图鉴,正式成为了一名(半吊子)birder。开始观鸟后,身边的世界仿佛多了一个新的维度。满大街乱走的spotted dove和Java myna;各种可爱的heron 和 hummingbird;常在我家附近树梢上成群结队休息的imperial pigeon——在我的世界里,它们被赋予了名字。有了名字,就是有了connection。

今年旅行给我的另一个很大的revelation,是学了冲浪。之前一直对水上运动不怎么感冒的我,这次彻彻底底爱上大海。在巴厘岛学了三天的冲浪后,离开那日,我在日记里写道:

I love being in the water, I feel so connected to the water; and the water is so unpredictable, almost capricious; so passionate, full of momentum; but it can also be so still, still as the sky and earth; the water is, a little bit, like me.

The time you aren’t eager to catch the wave, you can just float in the sea and muse about the beauty of your surroundings. From Padang Padang you can see a few mountains, I’m not sure about their names, but you could see as detailed as their crinkled skin, which is amazing…

Being out in the waters made me realize that having been a city dweller for long really made me small and weak. The sea is rough and attractive and surfing is full of danger, yet, I love it. I started to care less about being tanned or being lost in the water. O, how I love the sensation of being free, and of taking risks. ”Who cares” had become one of my most frequently used words while in Bali.

I remember when we waited before the baby waves, there’d be continued waves coming to devour us, I’d grab the board so tight and hold my breath and shut my eyes, to wait for the wave to pass…

Till today , my right eye’s still slightly infected and swollen, my legs hurt badly from the sunburn, my feet still healing from the deep cuts from the rocks, my elbow and knees and back and lower chest hurt from skin abrasion 🤣🤣. But it’s definitely worth it.. I found a new fountain of freedom within me, so bold and unbounded, so proud and adventurous…

精神食粮

2022年下半年没怎么看书。影视作品倒是看了不少,游戏也打完了几部,其中不少都是让我大为震撼的作品。以下的分享,可能算不上「推荐」,因为大多是早有名气的作品(只是因为我吸纳的比较慢,所以今年才排到它们的档期)。

影视类

  • Breaking Bad, Better Call Saul. 两部剧先后看完,几乎是在任何维度都无可挑剔的神剧。已经成为在我内心里top 2的佳作。非常喜欢BCS里的Kim,今年最爱的女性角色,非常欣赏她的自信和雄辩,是我未来想要习得的气质。
  • The Whale,最近一年来看过的情绪最浓郁又恰到好处的电影。

游戏类

  • The Witness,吹哥七年磨出的神作,是我目前最爱的解谜游戏。不需要收集道具,不需要投机取巧,不需要任何复杂的操作——整个游戏就是一间大脑健身房。每次玩之前都要收拾好心情才能开始(因为真的很耗脑力)。连蒙带抄总算解完了谜题,结果才发现,更多的谜题藏在游戏世界的另一个维度上,简直是叹为观止。
  • Disco Elysium. 从来对RPG不感冒的我终于还是拜倒在这部神作之下,果真对于全方位戳中自己审美的东西没有抵抗力。主线游戏玩完之后,不禁想,苏联的亡魂还在吗,或许已经从很多人的记忆里消失了吧,但却被这部游戏保留了下来——性与酒精与毒品,填补了理想崩塌后的空洞。能联系到《二手时间》所表达的那种阵痛。

另一些琐碎的变化

2022年开始认真健身了,目前差不多已经形成了一周去2-3次健身房的习惯。健身还挺上瘾的,觉得自己的肌肉力量确实有了一些长进,出门旅行搬箱子变得轻松了很多。之前一直尝试各种运动,都没能形成习惯,如今终于找到了适合且喜欢的运动方式,还是蛮开心的。

2022更加深刻的意识到「自洽」的重要性,越来越欣赏拥有这种特质的人。

2022更加相信乐观主义的力量。Pessimism is toxic, it easily spreads on the Internet, like a disease. 乐观主义者积极向外生长,打开更多可能性。仍旧很爱那句歌词:「悲观主义者是那些总是担心下雨的人,而我早已浑身湿透」 ——Leonard Cohen

2022世界从疫情里渐渐苏醒,认识了很多海外来的新朋友,也和一些老朋友重新建立了联系。珍惜每一段真挚的友谊。

2022开始认真做vlog,非常喜欢在时间轴上重组记忆碎片的过程;开始以这种新的方式,认真纪念生活。

2022开始学陶艺,算是满足了自己对造型艺术一直以来的好奇心。艺术触角又多了一只。

2023,要继续和爱的人事物在一起;要继续创作,认真生活,上山下海,走的更远。

三年没能回家了。别人常问起我是否想家,我一般只回复:「还可以,没有很想。」

我很喜欢在坡的生活。有猫,有爱人,有喜爱的事业,有舒适的家,有可爱的朋友们。

但我早上梦醒时,却总发现自己在梦里和父母亲一起旅行。和父母在一起的时光,总是那样轻盈、温暖又自在。每次和二老视频电话结束的时候,总或多或少会产生一些因「无法近距离互相给予爱与陪伴」而起的伤感。

疫情封控之下,身边的朋友都把回国称作「冒险」。如今国内封控政策一日不松懈,我便一日不敢踏入故土。


十次有九次,都是老妈拨电话给我,是老妈一人独占屏幕,和我嘘寒问暖。老爸往往只是处在镜头之外,偶尔和我喊上一句话,叮嘱些重要的事,或者打个趣。上上周打电话之前,老爸刚到家,一问,原来是外出和好友小酌一杯。微醺之下,老爸不仅主动给我拨了视频电话,还独自霸占摄像头良久,而且和我吐露了不少的心里话。

“你奶奶走的太突然,都没来得及给我留下什么话。从那之后啊,我一直很难过,觉得再也没有爱了。”

我心里咯噔一声,不想在他面前哭,于是赶紧张罗了几句安慰的话,试图分散自己的注意力:“什么叫没有爱了呀,还有我和妈妈呢。”但我明白老爸的意思。再没有人会以「母亲」的方式爱他。

我又回忆起奶奶去世后他和我说的话:“从今天起,你不再有奶奶,我不再有妈。”


“我一直都想要写书啊,我反反复复看,觉得《瓦尔登湖》写的真好。但琢磨了下,我其实也写得出来那样的文字。”

我说:“你可能就是缺少一个契机。”

老爸幻想的退休生活,就是最简单的农家生活。养群鸡崽儿,养头倔驴,养条老狗,得空了出去钓钓鱼,他就贼满足了。也难怪他那么喜欢《瓦尔登湖》。

“我想看好多国外的书啊,可是都没地方看。”

是啊,好多东西没得看,好多话不能说。因这“文字狱”,我和爸爸还发生过一次口角。之前,我偶尔会和老妈在微信电话里聊起政治相关的话题。我爸就总是打断我们。这样的事儿接二连三,有一次我就不开心了。“为什么家人之间不能敞怀畅聊?要是连我们几个都要说话藏着掖着,还咋过啊?……”后来才知道,老爸是怕我由于“政见不主流”,以后回国有困难。我哭笑不得,觉得他想象力过于丰富了,但是又感概,在大陆生活的中国人,什么时候才能拥有免于恐惧的自由呢?


“你看了《隐入尘烟》那个电影没?我注意到电影末尾的一个细节,我觉得是导演特意安排的。电影的末尾,有个镜头,老头儿的炕头上的一个绿色的瓶子一闪而过。我觉得那是一瓶农药。但这个电影是开放式的结尾。我觉得这个镜头挺聪明。”

我的“文艺”基因,绝不是没有源头的呀。

简单记录2022年第二个季度读到了些什么有意思的内容。

技术类书籍

最近这几个月开始刷leetcode了,没再精读技术类的书。

非虚构类书籍

Oracle Bones 《甲骨文》by Peter Hessler 何伟

  • Progress: 100%
  • Comment: 叹为观止。信手拈来的幽默感,朴实流畅的叙事,严谨的学术精神,都让我对这本书爱不释手。
    字里行间,我能清晰感受到何老师对于中国文化的热爱。他笔下的普通人,也因他流畅文笔的衬托而无比鲜活。
    Peter Hessler,一位历史研究者,一位教师,一个记者,一位作家。二三十多岁的年纪,他引导着如此有趣的生活,真令人羡慕不已。

River Town 《江城》 by Peter Hessler 何伟

  • Progress: 100%
  • Comment: 断断续续大半年,终于读完了这本温情脉脉的书。River Town是在Oracle Bones之前写成的。能看出在River Town时期,何伟对于中国的“偏见”还比较严重;即使幽默如他,有时也无法化解笔下的强烈负面情绪。而这些带有偏见的情绪,到了Oracle Bones里,已经温和许多。从「江城」到「甲骨文」,能看出他对于中国文化的理解和热爱深刻了不少。

The PhD Grind by Philip Guo

  • Progress: 100%
  • Comment: 三月底的某天,花两小时飞快读完了这本小书。看完之后热血沸腾。作者的那一股韧劲儿多么迷人。每次和这样有韧性的灵魂碰撞后,我都会深受鼓舞。在这样缺乏外界刺激与监督的环境下,还能自己纯凭兴趣和坚持,拼出一番成绩,真的很棒。
    “It was not always fun, but it was fulfilling.”
    I hope I could say that upon my own Ph.D. graduation.
    It was FULFILLING.

Selfish, Shallow and Self-absorbed

  • Progress: 25%
  • Comment: 关于生育这件事,我从两年前就开始认真思考。这本书收藏了16篇有关「不生育」这一决定的文章,是一本很不错的小集子。如果你也不太想生娃,或许能在这本书里找到更多认同的声音。我也另开了一篇文章,想简单陈述一下自己的观点。

虚构类书籍

生活在别处 by 米兰·昆德拉

  • Progress: 100%
  • Comment: 在坡漂泊无定这么些年,昆德拉的书一直跟着我,没舍得扔。内容就不说了,这本小说单是结构就非常有趣,尤其是结尾高潮部分,十分巧妙,令人叫绝——没想到作者埋了一个贯穿整本作品的伏笔!
    很喜欢昆德拉的语言,这里贴上一句书中摘录的有趣比喻:“他觉得自己变伟大了,仿佛一座移动的忧伤纪念碑般穿过街道”…

三体 by 刘慈欣

  • Progress: 20%
  • Comment: 大刘啊大刘,写起女性真的是一败涂地。就不说别的角色了,从读到庄颜这个白莲花一般的角色,我就开始浑身不适。这莫非就是大部分男性心中“女性的理想形象”吗?大家闺秀,面容姣好,不谙世事,温文尔雅,干净的像一张白纸。我是真的读不下去了,落荒而逃。

钟表馆世界 by 绫辻行人

  • Progress: 100%
  • Comment: 还有主角如此蠢笨的推理小说!可给读者看了个爽!我感觉我的推理速度完胜主角!哈哈哈。若不是大凡推荐,我已经几乎快要遗忘读推理小说的快乐了。很少有什么书能让我夜不能寐了,这本书算是其中一本吧。喜爱本格推理。

十角馆事件 by 绫辻行人

  • Progress: 100%
  • Comment: 嗯……读到第二本就已经觉得和上面的「钟表馆」有些过于相似了。这本书和「无人生还」的高度相似性,让人说不清,这到底是致敬Agatha Christie,还是有点模仿过度了呢?还有,绫辻行人的馆系列貌似写了一共10本呢……我应该是不会再读了,哈哈。

非书籍类资源

  • 王局王志安老师开了一个油管频道,我从关注之后几乎每一期都会听听。我觉得这个频道可谓海外华人时评类自媒体中,我最喜爱的了。之前很少在油管看有关天朝的时评类节目,毕竟大部分都是“新唐人电视台”一流。
  • Wisecrack, 也是油管上的一个频道。我是从The Philosophy of Cowboy Bebop这期开始粉这个号。他们cover的话题非常广泛,从文艺评论到社会时评,无所不包。视频质量一流。可以说是喂饱好奇心的金牌食粮!

简单记录2022年第一个季度读到了些什么有意思的内容。

技术类书籍

Fluent Python 流畅的python

  • Progress: 95%
  • Rate: Excellent
  • Comment: 非常适合作为中高级python入门书。看书时候,一路都在感叹python的精巧;以如此灵活的积木来搭建程序,实在是妙趣横生。这本书样例丰富,逻辑流畅,重点是中文版翻译的竟然还不错!国内很多信息技术类的书籍,翻译水平实在一般;偶逢佳译,心旷神怡。

Designing Data-Intensive Applications

  • Progress: 25%
  • Rate: Excellent
  • Comment: 对于非CS科班出身的我来说,这本书蛮难啃的。所以我读了四分之一,发现读书时候的「摩擦力」变得太大,以至于我的大脑「近乎静止」,我就没有往下读了,觉得帮助确实不大。希望以后可以将书中的内容吃透与阅历。对了,这本书的中译版质量也很不一般,给译者们点赞!

Computer Systems: A Programmer’s Perspective

  • Progress: 5%
  • Rate: Excellent
  • Comment: 系统真的是个非常有趣的话题。我对于计算机的兴趣并不止步于软件。不仅是软件贯彻了levels of abstraction的思想;硬件也一样。正是计算机——乃至众多人类发明的繁复机器——背后这种「层层抽象」的理念,深深的吸引了我。flag在此:之后一定会继续读完这本神作。

一些有趣的技术博客(主要是机器学习方面)

  • https://lilianweng.github.io/ 非常棒的博客,覆盖了非常多主流的ML模型,讲解细致透彻又全面。我前段时间做强化学习有关的seminar,就参考了其中一篇post,确实帮助很大。
  • https://www.microsoft.com/en-us/research/ 这个估计很多人都知道吧。个人蛮喜欢看北美互联网大厂以及一些人工智能研究所的blog。由于这些blog的目标读者并不是专业ML研究员,所以文章会很好读。可以第一时间了解到这些大厂又把ML玩出来什么新花样。有助于培养科技乐观主义心态。

非虚构类书籍

未来世界的幸存者

  • Progress: 100%
  • Rate: Interesting
  • Comment: 一直有在看阮一峰老师的weekly newsletter。某日发现阮老师出过书,就拿来读了读。个人一直觉得阮老师对于科技的态度,喜忧参半;这本书的基调却更加悲观一些,尤其是最后有关「卡辛斯基的警告」一篇。此书出版只有四年,其中部分关于「科技之于社会的影响」的讨论,已经略显陈旧。人类确实已经走上信息技术的高速公路。

Principles by Ray Dalio

  • Progress: 20%
  • Rate: Not for me
  • Comment: 稍微翻了翻自传性质的第一部分,就没有往后读了。如果连自传部分都不太吸引我,估计后半部分更加说教性质的内容,会更加无趣吧。自传部分主要是聚焦于作者如何在青壮年时期一步步建立起对于金融市场的“机械化”理解的——对于金融比较感兴趣的小伙伴,可能会更喜欢这本书吧。But it’s not for me.

River Town

  • Progress: 50%
  • Rate: Like sipping a cup of tea
  • Comment: 这本书我断断续续读了一年之久。故事性不强,文字诙谐幽默,读来宛如品茶;不会成瘾,但有抚平内心的作用。何伟的一系列非虚构作品,可以说是非常喜欢的一味茶了。

永久记录

  • Progress: 60%
  • Rate: Great for geeks
  • Comment: 现在每每读到技术人员写的书,会很有共鸣感。尤其是代码的「绝对性」带给人的踏实与舒适——在这个易变难测的世界,这点确定性太难得了。没读完,对后半部分牵扯到比较多政治内容的部分不那么感兴趣。

暗网

  • Progress: 20%

  • Rate: Good for skimming

  • Comment: 这本只是翻了翻头尾。本以为此书会涉及更多有关暗网本身的技术层面的解释,后来发现它其实更侧重于人们利用暗网所从事的一些活动,比如非法交易,恐怖主义活动,等等。

    有趣的一点是,作者在文末浅谈了自己对于暗网的看法的转变:最初,他以为活动在暗网的人都是犯罪分子,应该被社会严打;后来渐渐意识到,暗网上活跃着很多有非凡创造力的人,而他们从事的暗网活动也并非绝对的罪恶行径;我们很难用单一的道德评价标准去看待这些人,以及他们所创造出的事物。

置身之内

  • Progress: 25%
  • Rate: Excellent
  • Comment: 一本非常有趣的研究中国政府与经济制度的书。作为一个年纪轻轻就背井离乡的人,读读与远方的家国有关的内容,会引发很多思考。读的越多,便越能理解这个世界的灰度——几乎所有的事物,并不是是非黑即白的。绝对的批判往往没有意义。我们需要一把历史的尺子,去度量事物的变化与发展;而不是聚焦于某个时间点观察到的某一现象,进行无意义的解构。

虚构类书籍

荒原狼

  • Progress: 20%
  • Rate: Not for me
  • Comment: 满纸荒唐言,一把辛酸泪。It’s a book belonging to the madman… 自去年读了《悉达多》之后,我迷上了黑塞。但是《悉》的文字,圆融又温和;这一本《荒原狼》却是犀利又疯狂。一把年纪,我果真已经啃不动这样生冷的文学啦,还是需要多吸收点乐观主义的文学,好取取暖。

The Neapolitan Novels

  • Progress: 100%

  • Rate: One of my favourite books

  • Comment: 读这一系列小说的最大感触:人生一世,并不能真正抓住或者留下什么。人生即每日,一日即永恒。

    我确实很久没有遇到过代入感如此之强的作品了(即使这本书与我在「文化」以及「时代」方面都有很大的错位);相信广大的读者,也和我有类似的体验;我们都一起随着作者流动的笔尖,走完了Elena和Lila,以及许许多多人浮沉的一生。有关这部庞大的小说,能讲的太多,或许会另开一篇写一写吧。

最近一次和她交谈,是几个月前的一通电话。我在坡县,她在中国。

电话的那头,她举棋不定,说不知道应不应该回新加坡,重新找一份工作,拾起之前戛然而止的生活。终了,她说,大部分朋友们都觉得「回坡是更好的决定」,那么她大概率会回来吧。很快就会回来的;再一两个月,就回来。

我斜倚在沙发上静静听着她踌躇的话语,一边回忆这些年来和她的交情。早些年,我们的道路曾经紧紧交织;如今,她已走在另一条道路上,而我已逐渐认不清她的模样和去向。


我认识她很多年了。她是长我一岁的学姐;与她初识之时,她也和我身边大多数同龄人一样,走在这样普通的道路上:初入异国的大学,一边为了学业奋斗,一边又在积极的探索和认知自我。

她待人接物异常真诚,聪颖温柔,爱笑,兴趣广泛,文字功底也非常好,很快就吸引到了我的关注。但由于她长我一届,且在不同的学院,初识的一两年,我们交集并不很多;待她进入职场后,我们反而才变得更加亲密了。


由于成绩优异,她用三年的时间读完了四年的本科课程。就像很多初入工作的年轻人一样,她也遭遇了一场「精神危机」。她曾写道:大学的毕业典礼之所以叫作commencement,想要强调的并不是大学的「终结」,而是一个人真正开始学习如何承担责任,自力更生,接受社会洗礼的「伊始」(即commence)。

某天,她约我散步,和我倾吐她初入职场的不快。

如今回想起来,她那日所倾诉的来自于工作的打击,更多是「内生」的——10-5-5的工作时间,整体氛围相对养老的公司,人品不错的上司,质朴的同事,在应届生中间还算不错的薪水——所有这些,在常人听来,似乎无可挑剔。让她焦虑不安的,是她坚持认为的工作的「无意义」。

她所在的公司所掌握的技术,可以说是支持「人类现当代科技架构」的核心一环。然而对于科技时代,她抱有一种几乎是本能的悲观失望。她渴望更加温暖的,贴近人性的工作,而非日日和冷冰冰的机台相处。

工作之外,她的生活异常丰富温热——她主动接触坡县各种不同的社群,和人积极构建联系;关注气候变化和自然;热爱舞蹈和瑜伽;探索有机农业;等等。我们仍旧常联系,一起外出探寻美食,热切地交流书影音;我仍爱她的自由勇敢,爱她的笑容,但对她的情感里,却逐渐夹杂了一份担忧。

我察觉到她的「不稳定」——她工作之外的人生计划,一直是流变的:开农场;做瑜伽老师;办舞蹈工作坊;学戏剧;做气候变化相关的工作;等等……似乎每个规划都有模有样,也几乎要全情投入;但又似乎没有真正在哪个项目上落脚。 我逐渐的看不清她的未来。

与此同时,有关本职工作的沮丧情绪一直如影随形;她似乎病了很多次,状态不太稳定(我曾买了滋补的中药去看望她);肠胃脆弱;身体也一直有些瘦削。


有一天,她异国的男友联系我,说和她失联了,他很担心,请我试图联系她。然而我也联系不到。几小时后才得知,她的精神家园经历了一次大面积的失火;在失联的状态下,找闺蜜哭诉了一整晚,方才平息。

我猜想,她或许曾多次这样陷入绝望,以泪洗面;但她从没在我肩头哭过,大概因为我从未出过象牙塔,无法完整映照她的痛苦吧。

三年后,她终于下定决心离开这家公司,离开新加坡。她回国了,走了很多地方,见了很多人;末了,回到老家,才终又安定下来。


距离我们那次通话,已然半年光景;她终究还是没有如期回来。

朋友圈里,经常看得到她分享平静恬淡的老家生活,以及许多有关爱,自然,教育,灵性等的内容。她的灵魂仍旧温热。我时常遥远地思念她。

最近刚刚毕业的师兄和我说,一旦下定了离开学术界的决心,那么在象牙塔里多呆上的每一天,都不啻一种「折磨」。

我完全理解他的心情——既然终点不是做学术,那么读博所积攒的知识与经验,可被迁移到业界的,少之又少。功利点来讲,促使我们坚持下来的,竟也只是为了一纸文凭,以作为未来找工作时的敲门砖。

不知还有多少博士生心态如此——人虽还未走出这象牙塔,精神却已然出走。


由于自己本科和博士之间的专业跨度比较大,刚刚开始读博的时候,学业方面的各种挑战使我应接不暇;我只顾奋力劈开眼前的荆棘,无暇顾及远方。两年过后,科研项目终于有了初步的结论,我也终于摆脱了「如果这个项目最终失败了,我要怎么重新来过?」的焦灼感。

第一个项目的阶段性成功,并没有让我对「科研」这件事拥有了更多的热情;相反的,我开始逐渐确定,自己并不喜欢「充满太多不确定性」的工作。博士前两年,一想到手头的项目有可能「无果而终」,我便不能安眠。而如今项目逐渐收尾,只剩下一些按部就班的工作;我重又恢复了恬淡的心境,感到无比幸福。经由此事,我也认识到,自己确实不适合做纯科研工作。

与此同时,我人生的「重心」也渐渐发生了重排序。我不再试图用「事业」定义自己的人生价值;好好经营自己的生活,成为了我最在乎的事。我开始认真的运动,更加注重家人和朋友,积极的在周末安排各种各样新鲜的活动,学着制作vlog记录生活,给自己的各种爱好刻意腾出整块的时间。当我把目光渐渐的从「远大理想」收回到「日常生活」的时候,我反而觉得更加脚踏实地,更加开心了。

自幼接受的教育告诉我,要做一个有「抱负」的人。我花了十几年的时间,终于摆脱了这一包袱,并感到如释重负。生活本身如此可爱,而我又何必匆匆?


我写下对于未来的工作的期待:

好相处的老板和同事;
不能接受有损健康的工作时长;
能有比较大块的深度思考的时间;
希望项目能带来相对比较即时的反馈和满足感。
(以上这几条如若能同时满足,将是多大的奢侈。)

如果用这套标准来衡量我目前的“工作”,似乎只有最后一条得不到满足。大部分科研项目的周期以年为单位;这也是我并不想在学术界继续科研事业的主要原因。我渴望更加即时的满足,以及更具有确定性的工作。(这也是为什么我近来尤其着迷计算机——这个世界上,几乎很少什么事物具有「计算机程序」一般的确定性。)

和篇首的学长差不离,我人虽还在象牙塔,精神却已出走;但我并不觉得目前的工作算得上一种「折磨」。我知道现阶段的一些付出,在业界没有应用价值,但它们将成为我精神世界里坚实的一块土地。我想怀抱着一种古朴的「匠人精神」,认真把手里的活儿打磨好,再离开这里。

不禁想起,有次开会的时候,导师和我打趣:Your project will be your legacy for neuroscience… It will be cited for hundreds, even thousands of times. 导师没有过分夸张——我即将收尾的这个项目,算是给neuroimager们研发一个非常关键且常用的「工具」。

明年,我就要和这段比大部分人更加漫长的象牙塔时代,说再见了。且行且珍惜。

Three years have passed since I joined my current research lab, first as an undergraduate research intern, then as a PhD student. Three years have I felt constantly grateful to my supervisor and fellow labmates; three years have I occasionally considered quitting this program and moving elsewhere. As with many other PhD students, I’ve had my ups and downs. Here I would like to write an interim summary for my past three years working as a researcher at the intersection of neuroscience and data science.

My field in a nutshell

When I tell someone that I am a neuroscientist, they’d usually picture me as someone who keeps monkeys in the lab and conduct animal experiments. Well, my research involves neither, since our lab is a pure data lab (means that we do not collect data ourselves, instead we use public data collected by other groups) and studies only human data. The landscape of neuroscience is vast and diverse. So where do I find myself in this diverse field?

Network neuroscience

There is one stream of neuroscience research called the “network neuroscience“, which is roughly the tribe where I belong. Basically, network neuroscientists view the brain as an interconnected network instead of an aggregate of individual parts. Before, people used to believe that brain functions are highly localized (i.e. different parts of the brain are associated with different traits and abilities), which was only partially correct, as scientists later discovered. For instance, the occurrence of certain mental diseases is dependent on the disconnection between multiple parts of the brain (sometimes referred to as a brain circuitry), instead of originating from the damage of a particular brain region.

About a decade ago, my current supervisor published an impactful paper on the discovery of large-scale functional brain network with functional MRI (fMRI) data. He performed a clustering algorithm on the fMRI data and divided the cerebral cortex (a sheet of neural tissue that is critical to your cognition!) into a few networks, for instance, the visual network (where the neurons work hard to make you see well), or the default network (which is only most active when you’re not thinking hard, like when you’re meditating).

My current work is, in principle, an extension of his work, whereby I delineate the cerebral cortex into even smaller functional areas, still with fMRI data. My supervisor’s work is sort of like dividing the entire map of the brain into multiple states (brain networks), while I would be dividing the entire map into smaller cities (brain areas), according to spatial characteristics as well as signal similarity of individual brain units.

Call me a mapmaker for the human cerebral cortex!

Hamming’s question

Sometimes, I’d ask myself Hamming’s famous question for every researcher:

“Are you working on the most important questions in your field? If not, why aren’t you?”

In my opinion, the most important question in neuroscience is the “binding problem” - why does cognition arise from this symphony of electrical and chemical signals across a massive number of neurons? I hope I could work on that question, but as far as I know, any existing answer to this question is pure speculation and completely non-falsifiable (I do have one favourite speculation given by Karl Friston). To understand how the brain works is exponentially harder than trying to understand, for example, how the heart works. The heart has four hollow compartments and pumps blood under electrical pulses - an elegant, simple piece of machinery. The brain? 100 billion neurons constantly talk with one another and produces thoughts, emotions, drives, and so many other functions. It is a complicated machinery that is impossible to fathom. It is so complicated that it becomes so unpredictable, while such unpredictability underpins the beautifully complex humanity and who we are.

To be a good neuroscientist, you have to be comfortable with making speculations rather than constructing solid theories. The brain is not made up of 0s and 1s. It’s made up of neurons which are totally unlike logical gates - individual neurons take various shapes and functions, and they do not often work in the same way.

If this kind of uncertainty does not unsettle but excites you, you may enjoy neuroscience!

Life as a Ph.D.

Disclaimer: the experience of pursuing a Ph.D. could vary dramatically from field to field, from country to country, from group to group, and of course from person to person. What I am about to discuss is a personal narration of my own journey, which is not likely representative of an “averaged Ph.D. journey”. This is not a guide to “whether you should go for a Ph.D.”, either. I’d leave that difficult question to someone else!

Hardships

Doing a Ph.D. is hard. For some, hardship is the endless work hours. For some (like me), hardship is the immense difficulty of the problems at hand. For instance, it took me about two years to crack my very first research project. For most of the days during these two years, I’d wake up with these unsettling voices at the back of my mind: “Is this problem solvable? Am I going down the wrong path? When can this project conclude so that I could move on to the next one?” This immense burden of uncertainty has been both a painful and thrilling experience for me.

It was painful since I could not run away from it; whenever I’m awake, my research question may surface from my mind and start to bug me. It was thrilling since, sometimes even in the shower, I’d think about my research questions, and it was a beautiful experience when the “Eureka” moments kicked in. I’d rush out of the shower and try out my new ideas (which rarely works as well as I imagined, of course).

“No pains, no gains” applies particularly well when you work on hard problems that no one has ever attempted to solve before. To be a good researcher, you have to genuinely love solving hard problems. Research is not a lucrative career, and those who stay most likely truly enjoy solving puzzles.

Independent thinker

The first significant trait of an independent thinker is that he is not satisfied at just doing something well. He is most satisfied when he is able to do something well and differently. He enjoys taking the extra mile to think of new ways of doing things (in a better way), and this pursuit of novelty is independent of external rewards.

The second trait of an independent thinker is the ability to ask good questions. Most people are good problem solvers after some solid training in a specific field, but there is no systematic way of training for one to become good at asking questions.

Being an independent thinker may come naturally to some people. While for most of us, we were instructed to think “within the box” through our conventional education system. Students are optimized for taking standardized exams that are full of close-ended questions with unrealistic constraints (such that there exists only one possible answer). After a decade of training in cracking standardized exams, it usually takes some effort to be able to think independently again.

For myself, pursuing a Ph.D. has made me a more independent thinker. I think this is one of the most commonly shared attributes for people who have earned a Ph.D. degree.

Concluding thoughts

The dad of some friend of mine has advised her that, before pursuing a Ph.D., you should better work in the industry for a few years. If not, you’d probably chose a field without much practical value in the industry, and your research would very likely stay unimpactful for decades.

I think there is some wisdom in the above claim. Most human beings enjoy creating stuff, particularly stuff that is to be used by others. If your research is a few feet above people’s daily lives, you may not gain as much satisfaction as being able to invent something that’s going to be used widely, for example, a new drug that could cure Alzheimer’s disease.

Another thing to consider is that stuff with greater business value (means that many people find your product useful) pays off well. If you have the chance to pursue A that is more lucrative and impactful than B, while A and B are both intellectually challenging, why not go for A?

I drew a lime tree, and wrote her a poem. 1 July, 2020

I had almost nothing back then
Neither blossoms nor fruits
My leaves were dim and my branches bare
Then you took me home, and we had one another.

I was happy and comfortable
Sitting in the nutritious, warm soil
No mores pests intruding my lovely siestas
There’s nothing else I’d ask for.

But soon I started to feel 
A bit lethargic, fatigued
As if part of my youth was drained.

Still, I gave all I have
To permeate your house with aroma
And to grow the little green ones 
Just to win your angel-like laughters
and delightful eyes. 
Do you know that I love you so?

Time gone by, and there came a day
we had a new home.
I was left in the balcony, the sky was bright
And my body blazed with refreshed vitality.
I realised by then, that all I had truly needed
was sunshine. Eternal sunshine.

Polished, soft green leaves
start to crown my head
They gently swayed in the wind.
I knew that you were happy for me
And so was I, happy for you.
Because

I see you
kissed her in the moonlight,
I see you
stunned at the mesmerising sunset
I see you
lost yourself with the piano
your silhouette bathed in the warm, amber light.

Do you know that I love you so?
I think you do.